Couples therapy

Please note: the therapy sessions are conducted exclusively in German

A relationship needs attention and care — just like physical health, fitness, or mental well-being. In all these areas, we practice prevention and self-care. But a regular check-up for a healthy relationship? That hardly crosses anyone’s mind — we tend to think “Love will fix it (or is it just habit?)”. Maybe it will. But maybe not.

Especially when partners also work together professionally or run a business, the potential for conflict is huge. Raising children as a family is also a challenge — even more so in patchwork constellations. In companies, supervision doesn’t begin when nothing works anymore, but well before, for optimization. Minor cracks or friction should be addressed early — to keep things flowing, to bring your energies into synergy, and to support shared success and, most importantly: shared happiness.

If a healthy relationship is as important to you as your physical health, then couples coaching as a regular, qualified check-up is ideal. It’s not a red flag — it’s enriching, energizing, inspiring. Like sports or sauna, but for your relationship.

Situations where couples therapy is helpful

Polyamory – You want to open or redefine your relationship.

You're considering moving away from exclusivity and allowing intimacy with other people. That can be a rewarding experience — but it can also trigger jealousy, fear of loss, insecurity, or overwhelm. For success, many aspects must be discussed and clear agreements made. Let an experienced therapist guide you through the shift from monogamy to polyamory.

The silent (but advanced) relationship crisis

It slowly covers your relationship like a heavy fog — dimming the light of love until only darkness remains. You no longer recognize yourselves or each other. Clear signs are:

• You feel bored in your relationship
• Frequent arguments
• Silence between you
• Hiding important things
• Certain topics feel like dead ends

You get stuck in a web of entangled problems — often disagreeing on what the root issues even are. Or worse: one of you sees no problem at all. Couples therapy clears the way, untangles rigid thinking, brings light and air back in. It may take time — but brings new perspective and renewed energy. Where the journey goes from there will become clear together.

Young and married… and soon divorced?

Young couples often struggle with expectations: what exactly is love? Being in love doesn't automatically mean growing into deep love. The honeymoon phase is a hormonal synchronization — and when it fades, everyday life reveals flaws and differences. Arguments begin, disillusionment hits like a spark to dry wood. Therapy can help to sort things out, cool tempers, and reframe expectations. Thanks to my experience as a midwife, I’m very familiar with couples facing intense life changes.

Infidelity or the appearance of a third person

This devastating event can shake even long-term relationships. You’re shocked, overwhelmed, feel like “this is the end!” But is it really? Have you fully understood what happened — or are you trapped in hurt and anger? Couples therapy helps clarify the situation: what led to this moment, what does it mean, and what can be rebuilt — or how can you avoid a destructive breakup, especially if children are involved?

The couple in crisis

No one has a perfect relationship all the time. There are phases of joy and ease — and phases of tension and struggle. As long as there is goodwill and the desire to grow together, there is hope. Even when separation feels near, often just a few small shifts can restart connection — especially when children are involved.

My approach to couples therapy

Relationship check-up

If you're doing well but want to grow together, it’s valuable to book coaching sessions from time to time. We’ll reflect on recurring challenges and develop new ways to handle them. Often, it’s sexuality that fades and needs new energy. You might just need fresh ideas and honest space.

Therapy during conflict

Maybe you missed the early warning signs — or you’re in acute crisis (e.g., jealousy). The tension builds, goodwill fades, and respectful communication breaks down. Separation seems inevitable. In such cases, external support is essential. Therapy helps you re-open communication, explore inner processes, shift perspectives, and begin forgiving. Even if it leads to separation, it can become a respectful, peaceful one — especially important when children are involved.

My therapy method

Because of my biography, years of experience, and wide-ranging training, I can draw on various therapeutic methods. No two couples are the same — an individual approach is essential. In a safe, non-judgmental space, all topics can be brought to light. It’s crucial that both partners are willing to engage.

The success of couples therapy lies in honest conversation, self-reflection, and systemic techniques. To begin, I offer “first aid”: helping you out of emotional escalation or shutdown — creating a foundation for further steps.

In the following sessions, we build on that together — and determine the pace and duration as a team.

Please note: the therapy sessions are conducted exclusively in German