FMS Dilators for prostate massage offer the following advantages over other silicone or plastic products:

• The exceptionally smooth surface of borosilicate glass allows even long sessions without irritating the mucosa.
• No pores – very hygienic and easy to clean.
• Completely inert in the body, and resistant to discolouration and odours.
• Extremely sustainable thanks to lasting hygiene.
• Suitable for many other applications, e.g., for haemorrhoids, anal fissure, vaginal issues, and much more.

A single dilator or a dilator set?

There is no universally valid recommendation for the “right” size of a single dilator for prostate massage. Very small dilators can provide too little – or even uncomfortable – stimulation due to their small head and contact area. Our sizes from 14 mm are not designed for prostate massage but for other therapeutic uses.

For prostate massage, a diameter of at least 24 mm is advisable based on experience.

With a dilator over 24 mm the effect becomes more intense, but this also places more demand on the anal sphincter. Therefore, determine in advance which size you can actually accommodate to avoid pain during insertion or over the course of the massage. We provide tips on finding the right size for you.

With a dilator set you can adapt the size to your capacity – and increase it when you’re ready. A set of 24, 28, 32, and 36 mm is a solid choice. Don’t forget to check our volume discounts!

Preparation

Take your time and make sure you’re relaxed. Erotic arousal can also help. Heat relaxes the sphincter and feels good psychologically, so to enhance the effect you can keep a container with hot water nearby to warm the dilators from time to time. A baby food warmer is ideal because it maintains a constant temperature. Find the right temperature by briefly touching the dilator to the inside of your thigh. From around 30 mm upwards, FMS Dilators can be sustainably tempered thanks to a filling – you’ll find details in the instructions for use. The following items are essential:

• Despite the exceptional glide of FMS Dilators, you definitely need a high-quality lubricant such as pjur med.
• A towel to dry the dilators after the water bath and/or to clean your fingers after applying lubricant.
• A surface to place used dilators on if you’re using a set and increasing sizes.

Application

The right position

You can perform the prostate massage lying on your side, pulling up the upper leg (recovery position) and inserting the dilator from behind. However, range of motion is somewhat limited in this position. It’s sensible to decide in advance which equipment you’ll need and keep it within reach.

Insertion

Before starting, apply a little lubricant around the anal area and gently massage the sphincter with your fingertips to relax it. Then spread some lubricant on the (water-bath warmed and dried) dilator and dry your hands.

Now carefully insert the head of the (warmed) dilator – going deeper is not necessary at first – and relax for a moment.

Types of massage

Then guide the dilator in a little deeper – not straight, but angled slightly towards your abdomen, i.e., in the direction of the prostate – until you touch it. You’ll notice it clearly: contact with the prostate can feel unfamiliar at first if you’re not used to it.

By moving the dilator back and forth by two to three centimetres, you create a kind of tapping/point massage of the prostate, primarily on its posterior side facing the bowel. Start very gently so you can gradually get used to it. Even this light massage strongly stimulates prostate function.

As you progress, you can perform a rim massage of the prostate – i.e., massage all around it. For this you need a “wobbling” motion with the dilator: insert it slightly deeper so that the head is not in front of, but beside or slightly behind, the prostate. Now make small circular movements with the handle so that the head moves around the prostate and intensively massages its lateral regions. It takes a little practice to find the right depth, pressure, and radius.

Increase the size?

If you feel you can – or would like to – use a larger dilator, you can increase the size as you wish. A 36 mm dilator produces more effect than a 24 mm one; however, diameters of around 44 mm should not be exceeded because the increased mass of the surrounding tissue makes precise guidance more difficult. Stretching is not the goal in prostate massage.

Frequency and duration

There’s no one-size-fits-all guidance here either – people differ, as do time constraints and the urgency or severity of prostate issues.

In general:

• Even a very short stimulation of prostate function is better than none.
• More frequent short sessions are better than rare, very long ones.

Try to practise as regularly as possible. The rule of thumb: more consistency brings more benefit. Establish routines rather than leaving it to chance. If you can, do a brief session morning and evening; otherwise, once a day for a bit longer.

Discharge of prostatic fluid

During prostate massage there may be discharge of prostatic fluid – usually without, but sometimes with, orgasm or varying degrees of arousal. This is normal and not determined solely by massage intensity; imagination, mindset, and whether another person performs the massage all play a role.

Prostate massage as sex play

Prostate massage can also be performed as a special form of penetration by a partner and is therefore a form of intimate care. This kind of sex play – penetration of a man by a woman (also: pegging) – can often help with potency issues and erectile weakness because the experience (re)activates the feminine aspect (anima) in the man. For a healthy flow of energy – a prerequisite for healthy potency – both poles (feminine and masculine) are required. This principle is symbolised by the yin-yang sign and applies to all people, regardless of how they identify.

Free therapeutic advice

Under “Frequently asked questions about FMS Dilators” you’ll find more information. Our guides cover many other special topics. If you have any further questions, feel free to email me personally – I’ll be happy to help.

Contact: hsw@theros.de

Hera Schulte Westenberg